WoMo to SAHM

It used to be that one of the corner offices in the floor above mine at work was the stronghold of a tough mama, whose reputation as an iron-fisted bitch preceded her like an entourage would a celebrity.  I am proud to call her my friend.

We worked in different departments but we became connected through a common friend and interest.  It was during off-hours hook-ups over drinks and good food that I came to know her better and saw a side of her that many didn't.  And on the day she finally said goodbye to a life as a high-powered manager in a Fortune 500 company, she revealed to me the true reason why she left: she did it for love.  

My friend has a son with special needs.  As he entered his formative years, it became apparent to her that she must always be by his side.  She said that the decision came to her easily; it was non-negotiable.  The crucial needs of a multi-million dollar operation, that supported enormous networks of energy providers around the world, paled in comparison to her young son's need to survive.  Long story short, this WoMo made the most dramatic career change: she became a SAHM.

What she did is neither new or unique, but it struck me hard all the same.  My own mother made the same choice when I was born.  I have 5 girl friends who used to be workaholics and are now SAHMs by choice.  My best friend has already decided to become a SAHM once she becomes pregnant.

With my firstborn back in 2002

What must it be like to be a SAHM 24x7?  Sure, I've seen my own mom as a SAHM in action, but she and I are very different creatures.  I don't think I'm built to be a SAHM.  At best, I could become a WAHM (work-at-home mom) again, which is what I was during my first 3 years as a mother.  But to completely give up working, that is mind-boggling to me.  Or maybe it's so only because I've never been put into a situation where I have to completely give it all up for good.  But if that happens, I know for certain that I will give up being a WoMo in a heartbeat with no second thoughts.

To all the SAHMs in the world who bravely gave up their careers, I salute you and send  you a virtual hug.  I hope that when your child/ren grow up, they will realize and appreciate how much you have given up for them.  God bless you.